It also discusses the meaning of epetitious deams, how medication affects the content of a deame's deams, and if theapists actually "guide" thei clients in what to say. This "guidance" might be the theapist "suggesting" to thei clients that they had suffeed some type of ealy childhood tauma, when in fact, thee wee no taumas in thei ealy childhoods.
The oigin of psychiaty is not, as it would have people believe, medicine, theapy o any othe even faintly scientific endeavo. Its oiginal pupose was not even to cue mental affliction. Fictional Works That Have Some. However, because I was drawn to these characters, I wanted them to live lives that were happy fulfilled, and filled with joy, not conflict.
Of course, if that were the case, they would have no stories to tell. What would I do differently? I might have chosen different works, and yet these spoke to me. I might have looked for different critiques, but they were hard to come by. I am not sure there was a lot I could have done differently, unless I chose something different to zero in on in the thesis.
Then of course the paper would have taken an entirely different twist. Perhaps I could have looked more deeply into the relationships rather than the characters themselves, or the plot, that Moore seemed to have so many struggles…… [Read More]. Parent Trap 1 And 2. Family therapy believes that problems that the individuals evidence stem from the fact that problems occur within the family unit itself and that the family is divided into several component parts. To address these problems the therapist, as it were, therefore steps into the family unit, becomes "a part of it" and intervenes.
His doing so not only enables him to see the family patterns from the inside; thereby understanding faults of fission but also enable him to practice therapy. Intervention in the family is called enactment.
Enactment refers to the therapist encouraging acting of dysfunctional relationship patterns within the family therapy session and him acting out some of this behavior by actually entering the family unit. The therapist thereby learns about the family's structure and interactional patterns and is able to interfere in the process by modifying some of the negative elements, pointing these out, intensifying positive elements, and…… [Read More].
Armand Nicholi Freud and God. Armand Nicholi's The Question of God: It places in counterpoint the thought and writings of two men who never met, spoke, or engaged in any important way with each other's writings -- in fact they had little in common apart from both living in Great Britain at the same time for a period of about fourteen months.
These men are the Oxford don, C. Lewis, an authority on Renaissance literature and a novelist and Christian polemicist, and the psychiatrist Sigmund Freud, still famous as a doctor and theoretician who posited the existence of such concepts as the Oedipus complex, the unconscious, and polymorphous perversity.
Freud never read a word that C. Lewis wrote, and while it is extremely unlikely that Lewis could have escaped exposure to the widely disseminated ideas of…… [Read More].
Ecological Approaches Provide a Strong. Archaeologists, influenced by a wide array of scientific fields, have taken a keen interest in understanding how humans adapted, influenced, modified, and impacted their environment. This is a difficult endeavor, however, because "environments change and the magnitude of change are never constant" O'Brien , pp. The importance of noting environmental changes as separate from human involvement may be erroneous. Environmental changes are hinted by proponents of historical ecology to have been initiated by humans through their…… [Read More].
Venus illiams on omen and Sports Venus illiams made an incredible impact on the tennis world at a very young age. She arose from modest beginnings in California to become one of the queens of tennis along with her younger sister, Serena. Venus, at twenty-two years of age, has provided the sports world with many exciting moments in a relatively short period of time.
Her amazing athletic ability and muscular physique are recognized and admired all over the world. Venus has rejuvenated the tennis world with her talent, determination, and conviction, all of which may be attributed to a strong work ethic and the tenacity of her father, Richard illiams. The following discussion will provide an introduction into her childhood years, her rise as a world tennis champion, and her positive influence on women all over the world. Groups The experimental method is usually taken to be the most scientific of all methods, the 'method of choice'.
The main problem with all the Psychodynamic Method is lack of control over the situation. The experimental method is a means of trying to overcome this problem. The experiment is sometimes described as the cornerstone of psychology: This is partly due to the central role Experimental method play in many of the physical sciences and also to psychology's historical view of itself as a science. A considerable amount of psychological research uses the experimental method.
An experiment is a study of cause and effect. It differs from Psychodynamic Method; in that it involves the deliberate manipulation of one variable, while trying to keep all other variables constant.
Psychodynamic psychology, although still practiced clinically, is not one of the current major approaches to personality psychology. During the 's and 's, numerous attempts…… [Read More].
The company is an offspring of a string of family businesses originally started by Yudell Hightower, who relocated to Middletown Ohio in the 's, from the cotton fields in Mississippi. Yudell would eventually sell his janitorial business and invest the proceeds in his son, Stephen Hightower's business. Today the company employs three generations of Hightower's and continues to distribute gasoline, diesel, biofuels and related products and services throughout the United States, Canada, Mexico, and Africa.
He knew that if he really concentrated all his efforts of delivering excellent service to that one client, who happens to…… [Read More]. Criminal Justice Within the Bible. Criminals of the Bible written by Mark Jones in the year Criminals of the Bible examines and studies the subject matter of the different criminal acts committed by different persons in the Bible.
These criminal acts in the book are considered as a measure against Mosaic Law, a law that was common for an extended period of time within which the Bible was written. In addition, Mark Jones, the author, takes into consideration peer studied assessments of criminal law theorists both in the 21st century and even before. The Bible is such an intriguing and interesting book. It consists of numerous stories from the creation story to the end of the world that can be fascinating and keep one enthralled with the different characters.
The book offers a societal, legal and political context of the criminal acts that took place at that point in time Jones and Johnstone, Financial Theories Financial Theory General. It is used to calculate the value of a company based on its total cash flow. Bhattacharya states that this theory assumed that lower dividends will lead to reduced levels of new equity and this will bring about a balance between the debt and equity of a company.
This is not ture for utilities companies and other monopolistic firms where new equities are rare. For the "Current Examples" in our table, do we need to find specific company examples that exist today or have happened in the last years? Or will it suffice to give a theoretical example of a measurement in a firm that fits the model. For example, would this be OK. Efficiency Theory Example - Production returns based on shared, variable, and per unit costs divided by the total output of a factory in a given period of time.
Divorce as Cherlin Points Out. Few people would say that divorce helps children except in cases of abuse. Divorce can create tremendous confusion in children of any age. One of the keys to preventing psychological, behavioral, or social problems is honesty. A non-profit group called Health Guide offers advice for parents going through a divorce.
The organization recommends honesty and communication as keys to helping children cope and preventing mental or behavioral health problems. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry also recommends age-appropriate honesty and openness. The Health Guide also points out that many children "go through their parents' divorce with relatively few problems or permanent negative effects.
Depression, anxiety, social withdrawal, and a lack of interest in those things that used to give the child pleasure are some of the psychological symptoms of childhood stress. A divorce could add to existing…… [Read More]. Red Riding Hood Stories Have. In fact, he stresses that these stories should be read without any commentary about the possible unconscious content. This destroys the story's enchantment. More recently, different authors have returned to the earlier usage of fairy tales, or conveying a message about society perspectives.
Catherine Storr, for example, emphasizes a feminist viewpoint. In "Little Polly iding Hood. In fact, she outsmarts him and refutes the stereotype of men being smarter than women.
Polly does not even live in a forest but in a city. She deceives the wolf by taking the bus or getting a ride to her grandmother's house. Finally, the story ends with the…… [Read More]. Focuses on child attachment theoy and eseach. Povides empiical pespective with cutting edge studies, eviews, and clinical case obsevations.
Cosses ove the fields of psychiaty, psychology, nusing, social wok and elated fields whilst pesenting ideas, methods, and eseach on attachment theoy. Thee ae extensive book eviews, case studies, and the latest behavioal techniques with step-by-step details…… [Read More].
I 1 older sister 1 younger sister boy family. I live mother father. My project building flower boxes kindergartens. University of Fairbanks If I were to describe myself in one word it would be this: To me, the word 'Alaskan' sums up all of the positive traits of my character: My goal is to attend the University of Fairbanks and major in Construction Management.
Most of my extracurricular activities revolve around my passion for the outdoors. Becoming an Eagle Scout was one of the proudest moments of my life, the cumulating effort of a lifetime of scouting.
To earn my status, I had to engage…… [Read More]. Colonialism is constructed upon a series of binaries, of 'savage vs. However, to do so is impossible -- no identity is 'pure.
Messaging Survey on Sustainable Fashion. Instead, the focus is on how it can be used to keep people connected, break through sibling rivalries implied by the two kids both wanting to use the device at the same time and the convenience aspect of the laptop. The stories progress overall to show how quickly families change, and how the Chromebook can keep up given it's simple, strong design. What is most significant about the messaging is that this is the first advertisement I've seen that successfully creates the allegorical reference of a new product introduction to having very young kids and launching them into the world.
This allegorical reference to launching the device and having very young kids, from infants to toddlers is brilliantly done. It is implied in the visual flow of images, the use of children at varying yet sequential ages, and the use of graphical allusions to growth. One is left realizing that…… [Read More].
Pentateuch Consists of the First Five Books. Pentateuch consists of the first five Books of the Bible. The Pentateuch is the same as what many people mean when they refer to the Torah, which is the first five books of the Tanakh.
In both Jewish and Christian tradition, Moses is considered the author of most of the Pentateuch and the belief is that God dictated the books to Moses Fairfield, N. However scholars generally agree that the books actually reflect compilations of earlier writings by various different authors. Taken together, the five books introduce the reader to God.
They explain that God is the creator of the universe and everything in it, how the world has imperfections despite being a divine creation, God's unique relationship with man, and the beginnings of the special relationship between God and his chosen people Fairfield, N.
The Pentateuch begins with Genesis. Mentoring Process in a Business Setting In most professions, the first years in a new position are fraught with uncertainties and problems.
The need for supporting teachers and people in other professions was cited as far back as the Conant eport During the next twenty years, many attempts were make to put effective mentoring programming in place throughout the business world. This study will address the level of mentoring which exists in different professions, specifically, education, medicine, and law.
As early as , induction programs that provided assistance to beginning teachers were being described Shaplin, Medicine has long had a system of mentoring in place which is called residency. Whether nor not the condition of this process is optimal depends upon to…… [Read More]. Seligman Martin Authentic Happiness. This ability is what Seligman calls "learned optimism" and is the basis for his bestselling book, Authentic Happiness. Seligman says that by focusing on our strengths and positive emotions as opposed to negative ones, we can bring about positive results in our lives.
The traditional focus of psychology has been on pathologies and psychiatric illnesses. This focus has neglected the potential of human beings to create happiness and fulfillment in their lives. Seligman hopes that by introducing people to his "positive psychology," they may learn to appreciate and find contentment in their…… [Read More]. Sexuality can be discussed and analyzed through concepts made in other works of the author. These essays revolve around the idea of sexual perversions and why they develop in the first place.
In the second essay, Freud talks about the various psychosocial stages of development. The third essay revolves around the genital stage and how a person is more included to sexuality when he or she begins puberty. Freud has stated that normal sexual activity between a man and a woman and is only limited to sexual intercourse.
Anything apart from that is considered a perversion or a deviation from normal human sexual activity. Conclusion derived from this the theory of sexuality and other Freudian concepts is that: Abnormal sexual perversions develop in a person due to psychosocial conflict in life and these perversions are a threat to stability of civilization. Freud insists on the notion that sexuality is a…… [Read More].
Gender Identity Is an Individual's. As previously mentioned, Crisp is openly homosexual and his exhibitionist impulses and self-destructive behavior motivates the struggle within his life vs. Similarly to Dil who lives his life, at times showing self-destruction as she guns down Jude and ties up Fergus, by her own rules, choosing to be a woman amidst a time when being transgendered was severely frowned upon.
The journey for both Crisp and Dil though hard, ultimately led to a strong sense of gender identity and an awakening of both sexuality and eroticism as they found their way through gender and sex. The journey for Crisp began after leaving his parent's home and venturing off into various jobs like a tap dance instructor and commercial artist. Although he met some initial success in these jobs, he ends up one of the few places that allows openly gay men. And even with constant ridicule from…… [Read More].
Myths on Socialization of Men and Women. Myth About Men and Women Gender Differences esults from Socialization and Culture The development of an individual's personal identity is influenced by the socialization process and culture of respective society. The socialization process guides individuals in how they interact with each other.
It teaches one on interaction behavior including how to ask, whom to ask, in what circumstance, and the appropriate language and words to use Devor, Culture defines the way of doing things and the measures in coming up with norms in the society. In the each and every society, the members ascribed to a particular way of life defined by their culture and taught through a socialization process.
The culture and socialization process ensures that members of a society relate to each other in harmony and cohesion. In the society members are socialized to uphold certain norms and adopt specific culture ways of doing things. Through the…… [Read More]. Review of Family to Family by Pipes and Lee. Jerry Pipes dedicated his life to the cause of using spirituality as the foundation for strengthening family ties, with Family to Family: Leaving a Lasting Legacy standing as one of his lasting contributions to that cause.
Together, Pipes and Lee combine to tackle the age-old dilemma facing families everywhere: Rather than devote several chapters to a discussion of why these problems seem to afflict families across all spectrums -- including religious and secular…… [Read More].
Relationships in Late Adulthood. Psychology Changing elationships in Late Adulthood Late adulthood is often mistakenly viewed as a time of relaxation, where everything slows and an individual's life becomes more consistent and less stressful. In reality, late adulthood is a time of great change. Individuals retire, children move away, lifestyles alters significantly, and social ties decline.
Most significantly, a person's relationships change significantly in late adulthood. This includes relationships with siblings, spouses, friends, children, and grandchildren. By considering these relationships and how they change, it will be shown that late adulthood is far from being a time of reduced stress. It may become a time of reduced stress if the individual makes the transition successfully, but the actual process of transition involves many significant changes.
One of the significant changes that occurs during late adulthood is that individuals often become more involved with their siblings. Stark and Hall suggest that this is partly…… [Read More]. Nabokov's Colorful Life Story Takes. Although his brother features prominently in the narrative, Nabokov cannot know, as most people cannot know, what it is like to be one of a set of triplets.
The mental energy and power that comes from being one of a set is in part related to the practical issues related to our upbringing, such as the need to formulate a unique identity in spite of being treated and viewed as equals. We competed for our parents' attention, unlike typical siblings whose birth order defines much of who they are in the family. When Nabokov's family is in exile, and they live as immigrants, the comparisons between his story and my own become even more salient.
The comparison raises the question: Is it possible to separate the self from one's culture, class, and creed? Like Nabokov, I had a privileged childhood with…… [Read More]. Celebrating the Pity of Brotherly. His solution is really an anti-solution. He urges people to have only one boy, but his implied message is clear - big brothers make stronger, better, younger brothers. Close to the end of the essay the author writes, "If you think my case is an isolated one, you are gravely mistaken.
There are probably millions of young men around the world who would not be the same men they are today had it not been for their older brothers" Krull. I had to laugh, because his descriptions of how older brothers treat their siblings is so right on. They are bigger, and they will not let younger brothers forget it. I have gone through many similar circumstances with my older brother, and sometimes it makes me angry, because just like in this essay, my parents seem clueless about his actions.
However, the essay made me laugh, because the author is…… [Read More]. Family Dysfunction Economic Distress and. It shows the selfishness of Dewey Dell, who is only concerned about her pregnancy and gives other family members little thought. It shows the long-suffering, to the point of self-immolation, of Cash. It shows the rivalry of Darl and Jewel, both vying for their dead mother's affection.
And it shows the innocent simplicity, bordering on mental instability, of the young Vardaman. Each of these family members was affected in different ways by this destructive family dynamic. Anse, in one of the most telling passages in the book regarding his relationship to the family, goes down the list of family members and whines about how each has cost him money in some way, further complaining that he has to work, when he does so, even though he doesn't have any teeth Wadlington argues that because the story is set in the south and Anse is the "master" of the house,…… [Read More].
Child Adoption Is a Process. Gradually, there are lesser desired adoptive kids as society have come to accept single mother who parent their children compared to earlier. The disgrace of giving birth to a child outside marriage has lowered and hence, the bulk of single moms prefer to have their kids with them in place of "relinquishing them" for being adopted.
Besides, thanks to advanced technology, "birth control" pills are instantly accessible to the fertile populace, and, as abortion has been legalized, a pregnancy which is unplanned could be stopped.
A new dimension to the problem has emerged because of the decrease in the supply of desirable adoptable infants and the rising infertility among Americans. Infant Adoption is Big Business in America It is anticipated that out of every six couples, one couple has problems in conceiving and total infertile couples may number 5.
A lot of adopters who are presently desirous of adoption…… [Read More]. As mentioned at the beginning, reading the Bible one can see that this is NOT a new problem. It should also be emphasized that the discussion presented herein is by no means a complete description of this complex problem.
It is rather an attempt to point out the most important factors that contribute to this situation. There are many other modifying factors. For example, if the second childs sex is different from that of the first, then this will tend to lessen the development of the rivalry as, from the start, the second child has something special that the first child doesnt have, namely the fact of being a girl or a boy.
On the other hand, if both children are of the same sex then the likelihood of the problem arising increases. Also, as is discussed in what follows, the difference in ages between consecutive children can greatly influence the development of this situation. At this time the mind is still in its formative period, so these schemas become a part of the childs PRE-conscious mind and this lays the foundations for all kinds of destructive psychological games in later life. The fact that these schemas are pre-conscious means that the child or adult is usually not aware of when he or she expresses them, and if he or she should become aware of them, he or she will perceive them as a completely natural way of acting and being.
It has to be this way, as it is by means of such pre-conscious structures that each mind builds its conscious thoughts. As the child grows and develops socially, these ready-made schemas will be used within his or her peer group, with his or her friends and schoolmates. And, when the child reaches adult life, he or she will use these same destructive schemas with his or her social or business associates and subordinates, and eventually with his or her spouse and his or her own children.
So, the emotional environment existing within the family during each childs first years of life has important delayed effects with respect to his or her behaviour with others in adult life. Even worse, these destructive schemas and effects are passed on from generation to generation. For example, a girl-child who feels hate and fury when her new sibling is born, is likely to feel the same way, as an adult, when her own children are born.
Children are emotionally quite perceptive. A child that feels that even his own mother doesnt love him or her will in turn have difficulty in forming loving relationships. A boy-child that feels hated or victimized by his mother can very easily develop a hatred towards most or ALL women, and when reaching adulthood he may try to subconsciously seek revenge from his mother by becoming, say, a rapist or a physical or verbal abuser, specially of those women that in one way or another remind him of his mother Now, it is NOT that the boy consciously thinks and decides I hate my mother so Im going to become a rapist or an abuser.
What actually happens is that he feels an inexplicable but irresistible compulsion to hurt and diminish certain women. Parents that harbour such subconscious hate and fury may also express these in various forms of child abuse or neglect.
It is probable that all the children from such families in which one or both of the parents subconsciously hate their children, as a result of the sibling rivalry that they, the PARENTS, suffered during THEIR childhood will also have serious emotional problems as children AND as adults. Sibling rivalry has another important delayed effect.
Even when the problem is serious, its effects may not become clearly apparent until the children reach adolescence. This means that this problem may exist for many years within the family without the parents becoming aware of it.
It is only until the childs mind begins to mature, between twelve and twenty years of age, that the hate and fury that have been bottled up inside during so many years begin to manifest as destructive behaviours against him or herself and others. By this time it is much more difficult to find solutions to the problem.
Another important factor in the development of this problem is the difference in age between consecutive siblings. A child this age simply does NOT have either the language or the capacity for logical reasoning. This means that for a child less than three years of age, no matter how hard the parents try to explain the need for him or her to love and care for the new brother or sister, the only thing this older child will understand is his or her frustration and anger with the arrival of this new intruder in the family.
On the other hand, it is relatively easy to include a child that is older than three in the preparations for the arrival of the new baby. The parents can build up his or her excitement for this wonderful event, and convince him or her of how useful he or she is going to be to them in helping to care for the newborn.
The older child will certainly still feel the big change, but now the parents can talk and reason with him or her, which greatly diminishes the level of stress within the family, the intensity of the resentment felt towards the new baby, and the expression of that resentment in harmful behaviours. Another factor which complicates this problem is when the parents, for whatever reason work obligations, lack of appropriate social or personal values and priorities leave their young children alone at home.
Without the parents supervision, there is nothing to stop the aggressively of ones against the others, and events can quickly escalate to levels that can provoke resentments that can last a lifetime. As a general rule, children younger than twelve should not be left alone. An additional factor that greatly complicates this problem is the occurrence of family traumas or tragedies the death of one or both of the parents, or their divorce or separation , which leave only one or none of the parents in charge of raising their children.
These family traumas may occur because of war, sickness, accidents, and other natural or social disasters. In such cases the parents simply do not have the opportunity to teach their children about how to avoid the problems of sibling rivalry or to teach them many other bits and pieces of information which are useful and necessary for day-to-day life and so then, when these children grow up and in turn form their own families, they dont have the necessary knowledge to avoid the development of this rivalry among THEIR children.
It may take several generations to overcome the effects of ONE of these family tragedies. In contrast, the most important factors for the development of good sibling relationships and for the mental health of children in general are the parents knowledge of basic parenting skills, their desire to apply these knowledge and skills, and that they have the time and opportunity to apply them with their children.
It is when the parents knowledge, skills, desire or opportunity are lacking that birth spacing, sibling gender, temperament, and other potentially negative factors become increasingly important.
These principles or premises are relatively self-evident truths about the human mind that can be useful in deciding which actions may nurture childrens mental health. Some of these principles are the following 1. The most complex structure in the known universe is each human mind. Modern science, even with all its spectacular recent advances, is only just beginning to understand this intricate structure.
This should give an idea of the reverence and awe with which parents and educators should look at EACH child. The human mental structure is primarily a product of the constantly changing environment in which it is evolving. The most important parts of this environment are its informational and emotional aspects. This does not mean that the genetic, biological and physical aspects of the environment are not important.
It is just that these last are usually not under the parents control. On the other hand, the parents generally can have considerable influence on the informational and emotional aspects of the childs environment.
This principle has at least two corollaries a All the environments in which all children have developed have at least some similarities, so all human mental structures will also have some similarities which means that even the most different people will have at least some points in common and b No two environments are exactly alike, so no two human mental structures will be exactly alike and vice-versa, even the most identical people will have some differences.
As noted previously, each successive child in the family has less access to his or her parents exclusive one-on-one time. Also, he or she will be influenced by the presence of his or her previous siblings, at their respective stages of mental and physical development.
Additionally, the parental influence each successive child receives will reflect the fact that the PARENTS also evolve and change with time. All of these factors contribute to differences in the mental structures of siblings - therefore, it cannot be expected that siblings will have very similar mental structures only because they were raised within the same family environment.
The human mental structure is self-organizing. This is a biological, neurological, and psychological fact. On the one hand, the development of the underlying structures of the mind that allow concepts to be acquired follows a well-defined sequence, with later developmental stages allowing the acquisition of concepts of different kind and generally increasing complexity and abstraction. And then, the development of the mental structure itself is sequential and arbores cent The concepts that are acquired first determine its subsequent development by allowing or not the further acquisition of related concepts.
And, environmental factors can accelerate, or delay, or obstruct the development of the underlying structures of the mind and of the conceptual structure itself. Also, as is well known, human children will imitate social behaviours they observe in others around them. If these behaviours are incorporated at an early enough stage, they will easily be taken as natural by the child as he or she grows up.
And then, it is easy to fall into the fallacy that if I feel this is a natural behaviour, and I observe it in others, then it IS the only possible natural behaviour for this type of social situation An obvious counterexample question is this Are there ANY human beings that exhibit different behaviour patterns in this type of social situations? If there are, then this means that, NO, this is NOT the only possible natural behaviour pattern, it is only ONE of several or many possible behaviour patterns for any certain type of social situation This indicates the importance of the factors present in the early environments, because any later organization will necessarily proceed from these.
After a certain short initial period, the most important factor in the environment of any particular individual is that very same individual, which is to say, his or her mental structure. That is, the factors present in the childs early environment are more important than the factors of later environments.
This indicates the great importance of the emotional factors present in the family environment in which the child is raised, e.
This also indicates the importance of the presence of siblings in that environment, and their emotional attitude towards their new brother or sister. All children are egocentric. This means that, for each particular child the center of the universe is that very same child, and his or her most important goal is his or her own satisfaction. Erich Fromm, the renowned psychologist, considers that this initial egocentric stage lasts at least through age eight.
This doesnt mean that children cannot pretend or imitate unselfish behaviour, which they will do to obtain their parents or caregivers approval. And in fact, it is these early trials at unselfish behaviour that create the bases for true cooperative behaviour later in life. Every child will tend towards self-individuation. This means that each child will tend to develop capabilities that are DIFFERENT from those he or she sees in the persons around him or her, specially those of his or her siblings.
In the first place, when the family is expecting a new baby, the parents should begin early to talk and to convince their older children as to how important the childrens help is going to be with the caring of their new baby brother or sister. The parents should also discuss the childrens considerable responsibilities as older brothers or sisters. They should mention that these responsibilities will change with the babys age, and that they will continue for the rest of the siblings lives.
The parents should plan to allow sufficient time between the births of each of their children so as to try to avoid having more than one child needing the same kind of care and attention at one time. Also, as was previously mentioned, if the older child is still very young, he or she will not yet have the capacity to understand the parents explanations with respect to the efforts needed for the care of the new baby.
A child that is still too young will not be able to understand and respond to the new babys arrival in a reasoned manner, but will tend to respond in a purely emotional negative way. It should be noted that Jewish law permitted an abortion if the mother already had a child that was less than two years old. Parents should carefully observe their children, and continually explain to the older siblings the necessity that the parents have of their help with the care of the younger ones. Parents should NEVER demonstrate a special preference for one of their children of course, they certainly can and will HAVE such a liking or preference - the damage only occurs if the childs other siblings become aware of this preference.
Giving preferential treatment to one of their children is one of the most TOXIC attitudes that parents can have with respect to their families.
This attitude will actively cause the development of rivalry among their children. EVERY child has nagging suspicions that his parents love another one of his brothers or sisters more than they love him. There cannot be any good reason for parents to encourage their childrens feelings of rivalry by confirming such suspicions See also Sibling Rivalry and the Family Favorite.
Another common mistake among parents is when they tend to over-identify themselves with one or more of their children and to satisfy that childs every wish or to give that child everything that the parent didnt have as a child. This parental attitude will make it difficult for the child to grow out of his initial self-centered stage.
It will also obstruct the development of his or her tendencies toward cooperative behavior. More than 00 years ago the French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau wrote Custom writing service can write essays on Sibling Rivalry Do you know a sure way to make an unhappy child? It is to accustom that child to getting everything that he or she wants.
Because, as the child grows, so will its demands. Sooner or later the childs wishes will become larger than our capacity to satisfy them, and this unexpected denial will cause him more torment than the lack of that thing he demanded of us. And, from that pain will come hate and loathing. Both extremes, of too little or of too much satisfaction of their wishes, are harmful to the emotional development of children. These parents tend to feel that the only thing that their children need is LOVE.
The problem is that children that receive this kind of overabundant love and attention, without sufficient moral and ethical life examples and instruction, tend not to grow out of the childish self-centered stage - they may grow up to be VERY intelligent and creative adults, but they will tend to use their talents ONLY for their OWN gratification - they may also become manipulative and abusive, simply because they have not developed the mental structures to empathize with the suffering and harm they cause on others See Readers Letters, and also Note , Abuse of Power.
Another very toxic attitude that parents have with towards their children, is showing them APPROVAL for harmful or destructive behaviors, such as a lack of respect towards the other parent, or towards any of the childs siblings or any other person. Because of the previously mentioned reasons, parents should not leave their children alone at home, with the older ones caring for the younger ones, if the oldest child is still less than twelve years old.
Parents need to plan and carry out frequent family activities with all of their children. During these, parents should try to avoid games and contests in which one of the children wins and the others lose.
They should instead look for activities and pastimes in which they ALL win if they cooperate with one another. Each childs temperament is a matter of luck. Nature selects it at random, without asking the parents opinion. So then, some children are born with an abrasive temperament, are strong-willed, or may be easily angered or irritated. On the other hand, there are other children that are naturally sweet-tempered, mild-mannered, docile and obedient The three components of a childs temperament are usually considered to be emotional intensity, activity level, and sociability.
Parents or would-be parents have to be prepared for the fact that EACH of their children will come with his or her OWN temperament, and they have to be prepared to rear and educate each one of their children working with THAT particular childs innate temperament. What is important for the development of that child as a true human being is not the childs temperament, but his or her character. Character is the result of the childs innate temperament plus the rearing given by his or her parents.
Without asking for their consent, we brought them into this world - We need to take the time to have an active part in the shaping of their minds, to share our life experiences with them, and to become a friend to them And, no - buying them material things instead of spending time with them will not make you their friend. Also, being their friend does NOT mean you stop being their parent or stop being the source of moral authority within the family.
If we do not take this time, we definitely need to ask ourselves this question Just WHAT was our purpose in bringing them into this world? The communitys help is specially necessary for those families that have suffered different traumas due to social or natural disasters. The community also has a definite interest in breaking the vicious cycle of ignorance that keeps these problems recurring generation after generation.
One way in which communities can help with this is including the previously discussed concepts in elementary and high school study programs, within such courses as Education for Family Life, or Social Studies. This should begin in early grades, with simple and general concepts, advancing towards detailed discussions on causes and consequences for high school students. Sex education is a necessary but certainly not a sufficient preparation for future family life.
Because of these same reasons, perhaps these concepts should be included in mandatory counselling sessions or courses for couples applying for marriage licenses. And since not all children are born to married couples, these concepts could also be included in similar counselling sessions or courses for all women who are pregnant or who have recently given birth, possibly as part of pre- or postnatal social or medical assistance.
If possible, these courses should be evaluated, with some kind of a possibly monetary small reward for successful completion.
For example, the Magna Systems Company distributes a series of instructional videos that could be adapted for such courses. This also means that national or regional social and economic development plans and programs should be re-examined as to whether these include adequate support for the well being of the family.
However, if these plans make inadequate or no provisions for long-term support for the well-being of the family e. Without adequate support for the family, these programs are worthless because, even if they attain their stated economic, health or nutrition goals, their end result will be families with an appearance of abundance of material possessions, and apparently healthy and well-nourished children.
But, if these children have not developed adequate affective bonds to their families and their communities, they will lack an inner vision of a positive purpose in life and become social malcontents that easily fall prey to drugs, gangs, or other self- or socially destructive behaviours - surely not a desirable goal, either for the community or for the individual.
However, this depressing situation appears to be occurring with increasing frequency in communities all over the world. This is why each community needs to work on developing and encouraging work and employment systems that allow parents to spend enough time with their children, and also by the development and implementation of effective social work and childcare systems.
One should remember that, in the degree in which these problems are not solved, it is us and our descendants, which, will have to live with their consequences. However, sibling rivalry may also have transcendental social consequences, whose pernicious and persistent negative effects have permeated human history and continue to manifest themselves in the present. We begin by postulating that the principal source of all moral evil i. Throughout history, we humans have innately recognized this, and continually lamented and deplored the abuse of power.
"Sibling rivalry is the antagonism or hostility between brothers and/or sisters which manifests itself in circumstances such as a common children's family fights " (Boyle, ). The root of sibling rivalry can be looked at through nature.
Sibling Rivalry: Sibling rivalry is a type of competition or animosity among children, blood-related or not. The sibling bond is often complicated and is influenced by factors such as parental treatment, birth order, personality, and people and experiences outside the family.
Sibling Rivalry Essay Examples. 14 total results. A Review of the Essay on "Sibling Rivalry" words. 1 page. A Personal Statement on Being the Youngest Child. words. 2 pages. An Analysis of Sibling Rivalry in the Family and Family Fights. 1, words. 3 pages. Bruno Bettelheim's Critique of the Cinderella Fairy Tale. Sibling rivalry is defined as "the antagonism between brothers and/or sisters that results in physical fighting, verbal hostility, teasing, or bullying" (Davidson). In many forms of media, which include books and films, sibling rivalry is a key plot device used to further the storyline/5(3).
Sibling rivalry and behaviors Perhaps, almost parents want their children to live in harmony and get along well with each others. However, sibling rivalry, or competitive feelings and actions occurring among the children, seems to be something unavoidable in family life. Jun 22, · Words: Length: 2 Pages Document Type: Essay Paper #: Instead, the focus is on how it can be used to keep people connected, break through sibling rivalries (implied by the two kids both wanting to use the device at the same time) and the convenience aspect of the laptop.